“I’m scared of screwing up my kids. I thought that once we were out of the baby stage, parenting would be a breeze. You just feel at every turn like, ‘Whoa, am I making the right decisions, setting the right boundaries?'” the 38-year-old mother says.
“There are days when I struggle with wanting to be a full-time, stay-at-home mother, and feeling guilty about that because I work. One parent at school recently said, ‘Oh you never go to anything.’ That hit me really hard.”
Currently pregnant with her third child with Dean McDermott, Tori is a mom to Liam Aaron, 4, and Stella Doreen, 3. She also talks about her relationship with her husband’s son Jack, 12.
“I have a good relationship with my stepson, Jack,” she says. “The most important thing I learned was to make sure Jack knew I was never going to try to take his mom’s place or be his mother.”
Spelling is keen on trying to help her kids avoid making the same mistakes she had done.
“I wasn’t truly comfortable with myself until I was about 30. I spent so much time and energy wondering if I wasn’t worthy, and trying to find people to validate me, instead of validating myself,” she reveals.
“When I think of what my greatest wish for my kids is, it’s for them to know who they are, and be proud and confident, before 30.”