“For whatever reason, and it’s a small group, trust me, but they’re loud,” DeGeneres said. “I went through this, and voices that don’t like you and say mean things really stick with you for some reason, more than voices that say you’re great.”
It all started after winning the 2013 Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress for Les Miserables.
“My friends and I had an idea for ‘Funny or Die’ and we wanted to do something on celebrity pregnancy rumors, so we just Googled pregnancy rumors and the story came up,” Hathaway recalled. “The title of it was, ‘Why Does Everyone Hate Anne Hathaway?’”
The impact at first was terrible.
“Well, I listened at first. I couldn’t help it,” she said. “You know, you try to shut it off, and I couldn’t. Then I realized why I couldn’t: I hadn’t learned to love myself yet. I hadn’t gotten there. If you don’t love yourself when someone says horrible things to you, part of you is always going to believe them.”
She continued, “So, then I was like, ‘OK, I don’t want to believe these people. I don’t want to agree with them on any level. And I want to figure out who I am. I want to learn who I am. I don’t want to feel like I’m fragile every time I leave the house because I’m so dependent on what other people think about me.’”
Hathaway revealed she took the words of her Interstellar costar Matthew McConaughey as advice.
“I just took a step back, and as [he] would say, ‘I just kept living.’ And, it’s been a really cool journey,” she explained. “I feel like I arrived in a place where, maybe not every minute of every day, but way more than I used to, I have a tremendous amount of love and compassion for everyone else, and best of all I have it for myself, which I never enjoyed before.”